How do you deal with a girl who is trying to steal your boyfriend?

There is this girl who has been telling me she is in love with my boyfriend and that she has loved him for 2 years. Also that she is going to continue to love him until the day she dies. She has been flirting with him and telling him that she wants to be his number one. Numerous times both my boyfriend and I have told her to back off. My boyfriend is the trustworthy type who doesn't like being mean and so he has never told her to just get LOST.





I am trying a new thing and that is to not be jealous or mean to other people. But she keeps on pushing it to the point where I can't help it.





What should I do?





I don't want to tell my boyfriend who he can hang out. But the girl is head over heels for him and tends on taking him for her own.How do you deal with a girl who is trying to steal your boyfriend?
So this girl is dissing your flyboy?


you need to give her the 411


actually get your bf to watch the movie misery or fata attraction


if that don't scare the faeces out of him, then let him have a go at her!


She is a pyscho child and will eventually turn postal on youHow do you deal with a girl who is trying to steal your boyfriend?
Just be yourself, she can't steal him if he doesn't want to be stolen. Continue to trust in his loyalty and be kind and loving towards all others but take the time to explain to her how her behaviour makes you feel . Be honest about your feelings in regards to this issue and try not to react in an unhealthy way. respond well to this and it will go away. she will give up eventually provided she is not encouraged to continue her antics about him or her feelings about him.
I used to have the same problem, this chick moved away then I started going out with my boyfriend then she started telling me that she'll love him more then I will and when I was out of the picture she was going to marry him instead of me, and I was like yeah right, So what I did was told her very bluntly ';If you come with in 50 feet of him your face will be eating the concrete so fcking fast you wont know what hit you'; And she stopped :]
your gunna have to be


a little mean cuz nice got


you nowhere sweety


just tell her like it is


tell her to back the


f off and get the hell lost


before you do something about


it


but have no intentions on


doing anything physical about


it nd tell her that its NOT


a threat but it IS a promise





or tell your bf to put his


foot down and be


assertive
well, beating her up may not be the best route. Your boyfriend may think that it was a ***** move no matter how much he despises her. tell him to grow a pair and have her back off. Or if you really do trust your boyfriend don' worry about and he shouldn't cheat. Not every guy will cheat if you look away for a little while. Don't let it bother you. I f you see her get close then block that dumb hoe from getting close by sitting in between them.
I know what you mean.. It is soo hard to try not to be jealous but it sounds like your boyfriend doesn't like her too much if he has told her to back off. Just try to ignore her and try to trust your boyfriend as best as you can that's all you can do without looking like a crazy jealous girlfriend lol.
don't do anything. this is her problem, not yours and since you know your boyfriend isnt interested in her there is no reason for you to worry. really you should feel kinda bad for her since it sounds like she really does love him and he obviously doesn't love her back. its very sad for her.





**i can't believe how many people think beating her ***** *** up is an acceptable solution. are you people mental?
HE has to take care of this, and if he is as trust worthy as you say, he will. In her eyes, you are just a rival and she will not take you seriously. Ask him to take care of business. If he won't, you are going to have a real problem with the two of them.
I had this same problem and in the end he choose her over me, I only found out about her after our relationship ended. If you trust him then don't worry about it however, if he cares for you that much he should atleast tell her to politely back off, maybe a restraining order?
its one thing to be nice or whatever to people but your dealing with a true BTCH!!! i would go up to her and say, im only telling you this *once* if you i see you flirting with my boyfriend one last time, expect a black eye... back of you son of a *****
Tell your boyfriend that he needs to tell her off, and you need to say something along the lines of ';I know you THINK you love my boyfriend, but you need to back off. I tried being nice about it, but it's getting a bit out of hand. Please stop bothering us.';
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get a extra large hefty bag, a shovel, some bleach, and a **** load of lime
Tell him that she makes you really uncomfortable and that you know she'll leave you guys alone if she tells her to. If it continues, just ignore it, I know it will be difficult, but it's the only way to go... sorry. :'(
make her jealous and kiss him and stuff in front of her,a lot of pp, will say that's mean but shes trying to steal your boyfriend,come on you got to do something back to her
If you trust your boyfriend I wouldn't worry about it. If he's committed the main thing your going to have to worry about is some crazy ***** constantly bothering him.
its not your job to make her back-off cause you can do and say as much as you want but if your guy don't do it then she wont stop, also this chick dint sound very safe if you ask me she sounds obsess
the Italian mafia aren't here just to sit around and drink all day.
Well i'd voice your concern to your boyfriends ask for a little reassurance and then do not let this girl know that she's affecting you at all.
If your dude hangs out with her leave his dumb @ss because he knows better and you need to have respect for your self!
Listen to 'Head Over Heals' by Tears For Fears.
tell her that you dont appreciate that she is doing that and that she should fine a new guy
she said that she will love him till she dies.how do you make her not love bf?I have told u the answer.
HE needs to tell her face to face hes not interested
What should you do?


Tear a ***** up.
beat the **** out that *****...that whore will never stop
beat her up.
Slap a hoe...tell that crazy stalker ***** to back the **** off ur man lol
U grab her by her skanky hair and u say ';Back away from my man, or I'll rip all ur pubic hair out!'; Or something of equal of greater threat! At least that's what I would do!
Oh man....I have the same problem....but this girl I know is way more subtle...she keeps having these 'nervous breakdowns' and the only person who can 'calm her down' is apparently my bf....and my bf is too sweet too to just say- look, get lost. i'm not interested in you.





I think girls like you and me just have to be strong and stay strong. If you trust your boyfriend and like you said, he tells her to back off too, you should have no problems. Just don't give her too much attention. Think of her as a little mosquito...she's just trying to push your buttons by flapping around you and your bf and occasionally, she whines in your ear and irritates you.


Give her very little or no attention at all and make sure your bf does the same, and she will realise that her efforts at stealing your bf are useless.


Good luck!
First of all, if he is trustworthy, and you don't think he has feelings for her you can try to ignore it. My question is, if he knows she is saying this to you, why is he hanging out with her to begin with. And where are you that she keeps talking to you about this.





I dealt with the same situation, and it got to the point where she was following me and my boyfriend around. We went to the principals and nothing was done. Then at Homecoming one year, she tried to kiss him while I was in the restroom with my friend (I came out as he was pushing her away, neither saw us. I tore *ss across the room and chased her out to the trophy room where the principals were and punched her in her face. Because I had repeatedly been to one of the principals, and he repeatedly talked to her and she kept harassing us, he wouldn't let the other principals kick me out. After that she left us alone.





I don't like to condone violence, but sometimes it really is the only answer.
I actually am currently dealing with a similar situation. My boyfriend's best friend is a girl. They dated in the past and have known each other since they were in diapers. I cannot stand her, simply due to the fact that they have dated in the past. She still is head over heels in love with him, and he's too nice to really tell her to get lost.





I met her several months ago and it was very difficult not to punch her in the face. Still I put on a smiling face and tried my best to see the good in her as she's an important part of my BF's life. My boyfriend was really impressed at the way I handled myself around her and how I kept all my opinions regarding her to myself.





Whenever they hang out he tells me. Usually he only hangs out with her if her boyfriend tags along too, which is a relief. I trust my boyfriend with all my heart and know he wouldn't do anything to hurt me by messing around with her. That's pretty much all you can do is trust your guy and trust that he will not pursue anything with this loonie.

Is it wrong having feelings for another man except your boyfriend?

i have a wonderful boyfriend for two years and we are great but i used to work with a guy at my old work and someone brought it to my attention that i was flirting with him.....that really hurt me..I have never thought of him sexually but we did have a connection.... I mean its been awhile now and i still think about it....I know i need to stop dwelling on this...but im such a sensitive person and am extremely hard on myself...i told my boyfriend he was like get over it....but why cant i? i feel as tho my guilt will never end.... has anyone had this problem? if so how do you cope with it?Is it wrong having feelings for another man except your boyfriend?
Some people just naturally flirt with people. Not because they want them or because they are sexually attracted to them but because they don't realize they do it. There is nothing wrong with looking just remember you can't touch.Is it wrong having feelings for another man except your boyfriend?
You can't go by the opinnons of others. Sometimes people's view on flirting is a lot different from your own. Just because your in a relationship with someone you love doesn't mean that you're not going to meet people whom you think are great people. It's fine to fancy people and think of them as good people. You can also have a relationship with people like that as far as consoling one another and hanging out. Just don't do anything you wouldn't want done to you.
I love a lot of people in my life. Friendship is a kind of love. But there's only one person I chose. If you know you're going to stay with yours, I would get over it. And you're not really having feelings for anyone else, it seems. I would suggest letting it go ASAP before you ruin a good relationship feeling guilty about something that didn't amount to much.
You can't help if you have feeling for anyone whether your in a relationship or not. But you were smart because it is what you do what those feelings and you didn't do anything wrong like cheat or anything like that so you shouldn't feel guilty. Just take your bf advice. You will be alright
its called friendship some people flirt alot together and not at all with others but nothing ever happens. dont feel guilty it normal to flirt every now and again just dont do it all the time with a bunch of guys.
yes had this problem, and until it runs its course ull prob obsess over it totally. U better hope ur bf doesnt read this lol :D





g/luck
Ack! Chill out. As long as you're a healthy girl, you're going to be attracted to guys. No guilt necessary. You can't change the past so just do better in the future.





I'm more concerned about this being hard on yourself deal. Imagine that you had a friend who was always waiting for you to mess up, and then followed you around for days afterward beating on you and yelling at you about it. You wouldn't be friends with this person for very long would you? So be easy on yourself. Don't be your own worst enemy.

What do you do when you think you dont like your boyfriend?

we have been together for 7 months now and he just doesnt excite me anymore. In the beginning when we first started talking and flirting it was amusing, but two weeks into us beging to be official i realized he was really boring...and to serious. Most girls are gidy and cant help but smile when their boyfriends txt them or come around. Me on the other hand i roll my eyes. He's nice dont get me wrong but he just doesnt make my heart flutter. And since he's such of a hardcore shell he doesnt really express his feeling for me alot...which makes him seem cold. The best i can get him to say is..'; i like you alot'; thats it. it doesnt feel like i really know him because his so distant. Im not sure if he even likes me most of the time. We hang out like 8 times in a month. We talk to eachother everyday, but through txts. He never calls me...we never stay on the phone for hours talking till the sun comes up. I have home boys that are way way way more attentive then he is..they call me n stay on the phone wit me till the sun comes up...if it was up to them we'd be hangin out together everyday..most of them would love to date me..n i'm willing to bet they'd treat me all out better...He;s not a bad boyfriend,, his just not a good boyfriend..i've already broke up wit him after numerous failed attempts to try and stress to him the importance of being wanted and feeling well liked. He wasnt happy with that and for the first time opened up and saied he really wanted to be with me didnt want to let me go.. and the only reason he didnt show me how much he like me is because i dont and he didnt think thats what i wanted....and he said typically his a very loving person..he just thought thats what i want....so i thought i finally got through to him...but he just went back to his same old ways








his very passionate in the sinve he wants to cuddle and kiss alot..but most of the time im so sick of him that i shun him and we're upset wit eachother when we do hangout and aruging about not acting like we like eachother when we're txting...i dnt know what to do with him? what should i do?What do you do when you think you dont like your boyfriend?
I think you should dump him. He sounds like he's just playing around and wasting your time. If he really 'liked you a lot' he would make much more of an effort.What do you do when you think you dont like your boyfriend?
dump his sorry ***
i sooo know what you feel.


except my ex wasn't boring exactly but still. i felt exactly the same way you did... and... i just broke up with him. its not good for you and its not good for him if this goes on! the best thing to do is end it.

How far can you go in teasing your boyfriend?

Last night I wrote in a text message to my boyfriend ';Then stop texting, fart face'; because he said his friends were complaining that he was texting me. But I also added ';just joking.. good night, kisses.';





I don't think he minded this. I know guys feel comfortable when you can joke around with them, without being a b*tch. But how do you know how far to go with the jokes? Is is really okay to tease guys, because all guys feel it's important that their woman respects him as he is.





When is it flirting AND when it is just being nasty? lol. Thanks guys.





ps. we're both 22 yrs old..haha..and in collegeHow far can you go in teasing your boyfriend?
Use common sense. If you would be offended by how you are teasing then don't do it. Guys are really fun loving. We love to joke around and have fun. I don't think anything you said was offensive. If you are still worried about it, ask him. He is is the only one that truly knows how he feels. If he is upset about that, then you have a bigger problems than teasing him. How far can you go in teasing your boyfriend?
anon was so cute =D


';im a dork but im her dork so its fine';


awww lol so sweet =D





as long as you put the kisses at the end of it it's all good he knows you're just messing with him


I'm sure he teases you too =D


but also compliment him often guys love it when their ego's boost =D lol
nah he wuldnt mind that. my gf says that type of stuff to me al the time but i no she luves me n i luv her :). she says ';im a dork but im her dork so its fine';
if he's pissed off.. you've gone too far.

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How many times should you forgive your boyfriend/girlfriend when its the same mistakes?

I've been dating my boyfriend off and on for about 3 years now. We are always fighting because I feel like it is a one sided relationship: I am O.K. with him going out to parties without me but he gets mad when I do because he is afraid that I will hang out with guys. I feel like I deserve more trust than that. Two nights ago he went to a party, and as I was on my way to it with a few of my friends I called him. He told me that it was almost over and that he was leaving soon. Later that night I called him and he told me that the party was still going on but he wasnt with anyone, he was just waiting outside for his friend. I was slightly mad because he told me it was almost over so i didnt go. He was acting suspicious and so I asked him if a few girls were there that he's had past relations with and if he was hanging out with any girls in general. He told me no for both...The next day he told me that a few girls he's hooked up with in the past were there. I felt like he was hiding something and went through his texts to find him talking to a girl he's previously hooked up with saying how he had fun at the party with her in a flirting way. I confronted him about it and he went on to say that he was hanging out with that girl for a little while and that he also lied about waiting outside for his friend. In reality he was inside and was hanging out with a bunch of girls the whole night. On top of lying to me about basically that whole night, i caught him texting that same girl before. He told me he wouldnt talk to her anymore because i wasnt ok with it. He is extremely hypocritical when it comes to trust because he is the one who ends up lying. I don't want us to break up for good, but I'm tired of being lied to and treated unfairly.How many times should you forgive your boyfriend/girlfriend when its the same mistakes?
No man should be trusted when they start contradicting themselves and lying, you are so much better off without him and should no longer waste your precious time on him.





He won't change and you will continue to argue which you dislike doing but the trust isn't there, so you can't really call it a healthy relationship.





You deserve much better and i wish you the best of luck in finding a more honest boyfriend.How many times should you forgive your boyfriend/girlfriend when its the same mistakes?
Girl, you need to get rid of him...a.s.a.p.





Life is too short to put up with that kind of treatment.
i just forgive them even if they made me cry..
Don't forgive him. Cheaters do that. Accuse you of the exact thing they are doing. My ex did it to me. I had never even looked at another guy the whole time we were together (3years) and then I found out he was sleeping with his BEST FRIENDS missus.
Uuuuhhhhhhhhhh? are you serious. This guy is clearly cheating on you and you don't want to break up with him. Than you can't be helped. You know that saying ';if the person is so suspicious of you cheating or doing something, than most likely it's because they are doing it'; or something like that, well you are in that situation. Open your eyes, sometimes one has to realize that it wasn't meant to be and this guy is playing you for a fool. You sound like a really nice, faithful, forgiving girlfriend especially to put up with crap from your BF. Stop fooling yourself also and move on, you deserve better.
one rule for him and another for you. It seems like your not happy, you may disagree but honestly think, how many good times are there compared to bad? It might be sad but I think you need to walk away, it seems he doesn't respect you. You've given him his chances and he's wasted them, you deserve better you shouldn't have to make all the effort and him make none. I hope it goes well for you whatever you choose :)

Do you think its right for your boyfriend to have a friendship with someone you girlfriend doesn't like?

So me and my boyfriend have been going out for about two years now. About a year ago we both attended the same school. He made new friends there and I don't mind with who he has a friendship with. What really got me mad was when I found out that he started talking to this one girl I had told him I didn't like. I just sort of dealt with it. Then me and him broke up and they started flirting with each other, but when me and him got back together I asked him about it and he told me that he had done it to make me jealous since he knows how jealous I am. We have broken up so many times because of her or just have had arguments. Recently I was at his house we were both sitting down on the table and I asked him to erase her from his friends and he did. Then yesterday we were going to go buy halo 3 at game stop but he received a text and I'm guessing he knew who it was because even before he opened it he said ';Oh hell no'; and sort of tried to hide it. I of course got it and yea it was her. I wouldn't've gotten mad like I did but I had told him I didn't want him talking to her no more and he had told me he had erased her from his phone.


So I ended up telling him we were over and that I never wanted to see him again.


Am I over exaggerating?Do you think its right for your boyfriend to have a friendship with someone you girlfriend doesn't like?
I think your bf is still using this girl to make you jealous. And you're buying into it. If you calmly say, ';I need to go home now, because you're receiving texts from this girl and it bothers me';, that would be far more effective than having a scene. His ego gets stroked by these scenes. So the less emotional you are, the less gratifying it is to him, and he will get bored of making you jealous.Do you think its right for your boyfriend to have a friendship with someone you girlfriend doesn't like?
Yes you were and he doesnt deserve that treatment he can be friends with whomever he wishes... You are not his boss
Yep. You don't own him.
maybe you are
Yes u r over exaggerating. you even don't have the right to tell him to get her off his phonebook, unless he's doing no good with her. Order than than, I think u went over the top with that. There's a possibility he'll be thanking God u broke up with him, cos If I was a man, I'll definitely be glad we're over. The green eyed monster is a very bad thing, and u sure do let urs out without restraint. You need to work on that. He might tell u he loves u so much! but because of what ';all these'; he might just go for another. u need to let loose Sister.

How do you get a girl to back off from your boyfriend??

This girl works with my boyfriend so I know thats not going to help any. She's always flirting with him, she asks for his sweater to wear when she's cold, and I even seen a message where she sent him a heart on facebook in his inbox. I'm starting to get a little irritated and I don't really know what to do. I just wish she would quit and stop trying to get my boyfriends attention. I told her to stop sending him hearts and that I'm his girlfriend not her, but I doubt that will do anything. Her response was actually telling me that I was over reacting and that a heart ACTUALLY means ';lol';... like what the hell?? Since when?? That is the biggest bullshit ever! Any advice?How do you get a girl to back off from your boyfriend??
In some ways I agree...where's your trust in him...but I can't say that I've not been there. It sucks big time. I would say that if you want to stay with your boyfriend all you can do is keep a close eye on her and if she makes more advances...consult her face to face if you can. And if you find that ur BF is accepting these advances...talk to him about it. Even if he isn't tell him how it's bothering you the way they talk and how she's flirting with him. Find out what he does...if it shows that he's interested in her more than you...I'd say ditch him! If not...I'd tell him that it isn't that you don't trust him...you don't trust her and that the whole situation is making you jealous. A lot of the time that helps...give him a scenario b/c it helps to put things in a different perspective (for him). Dont' forget to see it from his side too tho b/c that is what a rela is...talking to each other about everything,anything and trying to help it grow the best you can...sometimes that means disregarding the weeds or just hoeing them out. (I hope my analogy makes sense!)How do you get a girl to back off from your boyfriend??
Scratch the hell out of her car.
Where's your TRUST?





That pretty insulting to your boyfriend if you won't even trust him that he can't resist another girl. Relax.
Your problem, believe it or not, has a simple solution. Just ask your boyfriend to have a talk with her and to discourage her. You can not control the people who might have an interest in your boyfriend from making a play for him. However, he can put a stop to it if he wants to. Somehow, I suspect, he is enjoying the attention she is giving to him and may not be in a big hurry to end the flirtation.My suggestion is that you sit your boyfriend down,let him know how you feel about the situation, and then ask him to cease contact with her.If he truly loves you and is sensitive to your feelings, he would have no problem with your request. The alternative is that you might have to reconsider your relationship. All the best.
If you show her how annoyed you are she will keep it up, and also if he is giving her any kind of attention she will keep it up. Does he loan her the sweater when she is cold? If so kick his a**.
talk to your guy not her. if he tells her to back off she is more likely to listen. however if you trust your guy then leave it be. as long as you trust him just think of it this way... this chic is doing her best to seduce your guy and he still chooses you
Send some one to beat the crap out her and tell her his yours.





But still trust him ok.





just don't trust her!!!
I agree with the car. Good Advice.
kill her


omg wat a *****


ask your bf he likes you more then her and tell him to do something about it!


or just talk so much **** about her with ur bf that he will hate her