so he dumped me because he thought that I flirt with guys too much. He also feel pressured because I get mad at him for him being mad at little things. I need revenge!How to get revenge on your ex boyfriend?
Revenge usually leads to regret. Move onHow to get revenge on your ex boyfriend?
Revenge with malice is childish. Just be friendly to him, and move on. The best kind of revenge there is.
The best revenge is bettering yourself.
Revenge = Stupidity.........just let it go.
I cant understand why a guy would leave such a wonderful warm sweet women? gee i wish there were more like you ....NOT
Friday, August 20, 2010
If you've been hurt in the past, how do you trust your boyfriend and not go crazy?
I had a boyfriend who lied to me all of the time and ever since then, I have such bad trust issues.
An example? My very new boyfriend (who I don't want to smother/freak out) didn't call me today (not that weird, we're not that kind of couple that MUST talk every five seconds). My really good friend (who's a total flirt), who I texted today, never wrote back.
They have a morning class together.
So naturally, because my super-trustworthy boyfriend who has never given me ANY reason not to trust him 100%, must be having sex with my extremely trustworthy friend.
Or, as I mildly freaked out about ALL DAY.
Real story?
He was really busy today. She had a community service event all day and did not have her phone.
Best part? She had to miss the class they have together, and he signed her in (so she would get credit for attendance anyway), just to be nice, and wrote the wrong last name.
So to sum up: I spent all day worrying that my boyfriend and my best friend were having a secret affair when he doesn't even know her last name.
I understand that I'm driving myself crazy because I really like him and I'm scared he'll treat me like my ex did, but HOW do I stop?
When I get into that mode, I just lose my mind a bit. Help?If you've been hurt in the past, how do you trust your boyfriend and not go crazy?
Remember today the next time you freak out.
You were worried, and it was for no reason. Then, start remembering all the times he's proved hes trustworthy.
But the biggest thing is to take a deep breath and remember. This guy is NOT your ex.
Its hard, but eventually you find someone who makes you so happy that you can give your whole trust to himIf you've been hurt in the past, how do you trust your boyfriend and not go crazy?
lossing your mind will only make thing worse. If you trust him 100% then put it in your heart that your wrong. I doubt that your bff would lie to you, and as you said she was doing something else today.Just have faith that your bf will be more amazing then you think.
I used to be in the same situation as you, so I understand what you are going through. It can take a long time to get over trust issues, and the best way to do it is through communication.
My ex was a complete ***, and it went beyond just lies. When I got together with my now- fiance, there were a lot of times when I felt like he was cheating on me, or going to hurt me, or ignore me, or whatever...even though he did nothing to indicate that. So I just sat down and talk to him, explained my situation, and he said he understand and that he would do whatever he could to help me get over this fear that he would be like my ex.
In the end getting over it will be up to you. Just keep reminding yourself that he has done nothing to indicate that he would be cheating on you, and that he isn't your ex. And when you feel particularly upset about it, when you are in ';that mode,'; then just talk to him. Let him know that there will be times you will be like this and it is not his fault. If he is a good guy, he should be willing to listen to you and help you through it.
Best of luck to you!
well if he have a lot of contact with her more than u and look at her more than u maybe it might be true and if ur bestfriend has a crush on your bf then maybe it is true but if u dont want to lose him stay close with him maybe during no class days u could talk to him and maybe be together the whole day or have a date and if ever he cancels it without telling u the reason why then ask him or maybe u could scare him (what i meant that if he wont tell u you can say to him that its over so he could tell u) or maybe it is true what u might think
If you can't force yourself to trust him (I understand how that can be an issue, so I'm not being critical here or anything) I'd just lay it all out on the table, just tell him in a nutshell if you want about your ex and all that and what's going on with you now. Make sure that he understands that you aren't blaming him for anything and that it's all stuff that you know you have to work through. Really, as long as you make sure you're owning your own stuff and not projecting any crap onto him, I'm sure he'll understand and even try to see if he can try to find a way to support you in his own way.
Get over it. This is not fair to you or your boyfriend, your old boyfriend is still ruling your life with his lies. Do you want this ex boyfriend in control of your life and your relationships? Sounds like you have to let go, what are you getting out of hanging on to a relationship that was so painful? Time to get real, stop the drama, your best friend did not deserve your over active imagination, and your boyfriend deserves you to trust him. You are the only thing holding everything back, let go of the old boyfriend.
An example? My very new boyfriend (who I don't want to smother/freak out) didn't call me today (not that weird, we're not that kind of couple that MUST talk every five seconds). My really good friend (who's a total flirt), who I texted today, never wrote back.
They have a morning class together.
So naturally, because my super-trustworthy boyfriend who has never given me ANY reason not to trust him 100%, must be having sex with my extremely trustworthy friend.
Or, as I mildly freaked out about ALL DAY.
Real story?
He was really busy today. She had a community service event all day and did not have her phone.
Best part? She had to miss the class they have together, and he signed her in (so she would get credit for attendance anyway), just to be nice, and wrote the wrong last name.
So to sum up: I spent all day worrying that my boyfriend and my best friend were having a secret affair when he doesn't even know her last name.
I understand that I'm driving myself crazy because I really like him and I'm scared he'll treat me like my ex did, but HOW do I stop?
When I get into that mode, I just lose my mind a bit. Help?If you've been hurt in the past, how do you trust your boyfriend and not go crazy?
Remember today the next time you freak out.
You were worried, and it was for no reason. Then, start remembering all the times he's proved hes trustworthy.
But the biggest thing is to take a deep breath and remember. This guy is NOT your ex.
Its hard, but eventually you find someone who makes you so happy that you can give your whole trust to himIf you've been hurt in the past, how do you trust your boyfriend and not go crazy?
lossing your mind will only make thing worse. If you trust him 100% then put it in your heart that your wrong. I doubt that your bff would lie to you, and as you said she was doing something else today.Just have faith that your bf will be more amazing then you think.
I used to be in the same situation as you, so I understand what you are going through. It can take a long time to get over trust issues, and the best way to do it is through communication.
My ex was a complete ***, and it went beyond just lies. When I got together with my now- fiance, there were a lot of times when I felt like he was cheating on me, or going to hurt me, or ignore me, or whatever...even though he did nothing to indicate that. So I just sat down and talk to him, explained my situation, and he said he understand and that he would do whatever he could to help me get over this fear that he would be like my ex.
In the end getting over it will be up to you. Just keep reminding yourself that he has done nothing to indicate that he would be cheating on you, and that he isn't your ex. And when you feel particularly upset about it, when you are in ';that mode,'; then just talk to him. Let him know that there will be times you will be like this and it is not his fault. If he is a good guy, he should be willing to listen to you and help you through it.
Best of luck to you!
well if he have a lot of contact with her more than u and look at her more than u maybe it might be true and if ur bestfriend has a crush on your bf then maybe it is true but if u dont want to lose him stay close with him maybe during no class days u could talk to him and maybe be together the whole day or have a date and if ever he cancels it without telling u the reason why then ask him or maybe u could scare him (what i meant that if he wont tell u you can say to him that its over so he could tell u) or maybe it is true what u might think
If you can't force yourself to trust him (I understand how that can be an issue, so I'm not being critical here or anything) I'd just lay it all out on the table, just tell him in a nutshell if you want about your ex and all that and what's going on with you now. Make sure that he understands that you aren't blaming him for anything and that it's all stuff that you know you have to work through. Really, as long as you make sure you're owning your own stuff and not projecting any crap onto him, I'm sure he'll understand and even try to see if he can try to find a way to support you in his own way.
Get over it. This is not fair to you or your boyfriend, your old boyfriend is still ruling your life with his lies. Do you want this ex boyfriend in control of your life and your relationships? Sounds like you have to let go, what are you getting out of hanging on to a relationship that was so painful? Time to get real, stop the drama, your best friend did not deserve your over active imagination, and your boyfriend deserves you to trust him. You are the only thing holding everything back, let go of the old boyfriend.
Advice on how to handle a comment made by your boyfriend?
My Boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2yrs strong now. Before that we were off and on and he cheated on me once. I got divorced right around the time we were on and off so I forgave him for him cheating cause I felt that Karma came and bit me in the butt for cheating on my ex.
Now were fighting really badly right now. We just got a house and close at the end of this month. The house is in his name, but any ways.
He has been texting and talking to one of his sister's friend's ALOT lately and tends to make it a point to see her every time she is in town (with or with out me, but when its not with me his sister is around) Now I鈥檓 sorry but I think that its not right for them to be talking everyday. He said that he will text her and ask how her day is and he enjoys hanging out with her... I told him that I don鈥檛 mind him talking to her just not everyday. I feel it鈥檚 not healthy especially what happened in the past. So any ways we were fighting all weekend cause when we went out with his sister and her friend I felt that they were flirting back and forth in front of me and I felt this was disrespectful and he got mad and so did I. The end of the night didn鈥檛 end well. So then the other night, he was drinking and said to me that there is a 90% chance he will cheat on me again.... Now how do you deal with this??? As far as I know he has not cheated on me but I still have that fear. I want to make things work and I don鈥檛 know if he was just saying that to see how I would react... I so don鈥檛 know what to do. I'm at a loss... Please help give me some advice. I know some of you may say leave him he will cheat but I want to believe that he wont and i really want to try to make things work. I need help in trying to come up with a plan/ idea to get threw to him! I've thought about couple鈥檚 therapy, but have not asked him about it yet... Thanks for your help!Advice on how to handle a comment made by your boyfriend?
if it was meant to be you wouldnt have to MAKE it work... if it was meant to be everything would have worked out by itself.
once a cheater, always a cheater when it comes to guys.
leave and find someone who makes you happy and you dont have to make it work.
you cant fix whats broken once the damage is doneAdvice on how to handle a comment made by your boyfriend?
If he's not cheating on you now he wants to. You are in a failed relationship that you don't want to get out of because you don't want the pain after you just went through a divorce.
This is a no win relationship. You can accept it now or suffer until you finally do. It's your choice.
Time to wave goodbye. Wishing all you want won't change him; it's plain silly to be chasing some version of the truth you are mistakenly believing in.
The two of you don't need to be getting married. You need to grow up instead.
Sorry to hear about the situation but you can't allow yourself to be in an unhappy relationship just because you think Karma is coming back for what you did in the past. Once you've ask for forgiveness genuwinely from God and whomever you've wronged. You can't hold on to it. But this man doesn't seem like he's changed his ways as you have obviously turned over a new leaf and you care about the relationship being better than it was in the past.
My advice to you is that it's time to call it out. He's making advances inpersuing an intimate relationship with another woman that isn't you. And obviously it's already become unhealthy that you both are arguing over it. It will get much worse before it is better if it ever is. Because he values the relationship with the other woman much more than he seems to value the one that you two have which is no good to you. It may be hard to walk away but you have to put your cards on the table and let him know what you will and will not stand for if you both sincerely want it to work. He has to prove it to you. You deserve to be happy. If not with him, you can find someone who will appreciate you and love you. Best of luck.
He already told you everything you need to know, and you make up your mind about how you want to handle that. I'd personally tell him there would be a 0% chance of that happening because we're no longer a couple. You know he already is interested in this other woman. Move on, this is going nowhere good.
Okay here's the thing - you don't want to just leave him, but he has said to you, drunk or not, that he believes there is a huge chance he will cheat on you again. It's bad enough you allowed him to cheat on you and you took him back so easily, now he is telling you that he will more than likely do it again AND he is acting in a way that makes you uncomfortable with his sister's friend, and despite you telling him you don't like it, he continues to do so.
Is that really someone you want to stay with? Get out now, before you move into the house (which, since it's in HIS name, I'm sure he made sure to do that on purpose - if he kicks you out, it's too bad so sad for you - if he was going to build a life with you, the house would have been in both your names).
Move on from this guy. You were not available, much less ready when you first met/started dating him, therefore, the whole relationship was in peril from the beginning. Let him go - don't contact him at all for 6 months - and tell him not to contact you for 6 months. If you can't live without him after 6 months, then you can get back in touch - but you really need to be away from him to figure out what you want.
Cheat with me, cheat on me. A good relationship is never born out of cheating. When you first got together, you were cheating on your then husband, he knew that then; he will always know that. Karma doesn't just take a nip.
Wait wait wait.... YOU cheated on your husband (a man you promised to be faithful to for the rest of your life) with this man, and now you're mad that your mister-ess might be cheating on you????? Thanks for the laugh!
Now were fighting really badly right now. We just got a house and close at the end of this month. The house is in his name, but any ways.
He has been texting and talking to one of his sister's friend's ALOT lately and tends to make it a point to see her every time she is in town (with or with out me, but when its not with me his sister is around) Now I鈥檓 sorry but I think that its not right for them to be talking everyday. He said that he will text her and ask how her day is and he enjoys hanging out with her... I told him that I don鈥檛 mind him talking to her just not everyday. I feel it鈥檚 not healthy especially what happened in the past. So any ways we were fighting all weekend cause when we went out with his sister and her friend I felt that they were flirting back and forth in front of me and I felt this was disrespectful and he got mad and so did I. The end of the night didn鈥檛 end well. So then the other night, he was drinking and said to me that there is a 90% chance he will cheat on me again.... Now how do you deal with this??? As far as I know he has not cheated on me but I still have that fear. I want to make things work and I don鈥檛 know if he was just saying that to see how I would react... I so don鈥檛 know what to do. I'm at a loss... Please help give me some advice. I know some of you may say leave him he will cheat but I want to believe that he wont and i really want to try to make things work. I need help in trying to come up with a plan/ idea to get threw to him! I've thought about couple鈥檚 therapy, but have not asked him about it yet... Thanks for your help!Advice on how to handle a comment made by your boyfriend?
if it was meant to be you wouldnt have to MAKE it work... if it was meant to be everything would have worked out by itself.
once a cheater, always a cheater when it comes to guys.
leave and find someone who makes you happy and you dont have to make it work.
you cant fix whats broken once the damage is doneAdvice on how to handle a comment made by your boyfriend?
If he's not cheating on you now he wants to. You are in a failed relationship that you don't want to get out of because you don't want the pain after you just went through a divorce.
This is a no win relationship. You can accept it now or suffer until you finally do. It's your choice.
Time to wave goodbye. Wishing all you want won't change him; it's plain silly to be chasing some version of the truth you are mistakenly believing in.
The two of you don't need to be getting married. You need to grow up instead.
Sorry to hear about the situation but you can't allow yourself to be in an unhappy relationship just because you think Karma is coming back for what you did in the past. Once you've ask for forgiveness genuwinely from God and whomever you've wronged. You can't hold on to it. But this man doesn't seem like he's changed his ways as you have obviously turned over a new leaf and you care about the relationship being better than it was in the past.
My advice to you is that it's time to call it out. He's making advances inpersuing an intimate relationship with another woman that isn't you. And obviously it's already become unhealthy that you both are arguing over it. It will get much worse before it is better if it ever is. Because he values the relationship with the other woman much more than he seems to value the one that you two have which is no good to you. It may be hard to walk away but you have to put your cards on the table and let him know what you will and will not stand for if you both sincerely want it to work. He has to prove it to you. You deserve to be happy. If not with him, you can find someone who will appreciate you and love you. Best of luck.
He already told you everything you need to know, and you make up your mind about how you want to handle that. I'd personally tell him there would be a 0% chance of that happening because we're no longer a couple. You know he already is interested in this other woman. Move on, this is going nowhere good.
Okay here's the thing - you don't want to just leave him, but he has said to you, drunk or not, that he believes there is a huge chance he will cheat on you again. It's bad enough you allowed him to cheat on you and you took him back so easily, now he is telling you that he will more than likely do it again AND he is acting in a way that makes you uncomfortable with his sister's friend, and despite you telling him you don't like it, he continues to do so.
Is that really someone you want to stay with? Get out now, before you move into the house (which, since it's in HIS name, I'm sure he made sure to do that on purpose - if he kicks you out, it's too bad so sad for you - if he was going to build a life with you, the house would have been in both your names).
Move on from this guy. You were not available, much less ready when you first met/started dating him, therefore, the whole relationship was in peril from the beginning. Let him go - don't contact him at all for 6 months - and tell him not to contact you for 6 months. If you can't live without him after 6 months, then you can get back in touch - but you really need to be away from him to figure out what you want.
Cheat with me, cheat on me. A good relationship is never born out of cheating. When you first got together, you were cheating on your then husband, he knew that then; he will always know that. Karma doesn't just take a nip.
Wait wait wait.... YOU cheated on your husband (a man you promised to be faithful to for the rest of your life) with this man, and now you're mad that your mister-ess might be cheating on you????? Thanks for the laugh!
How to make sure that your boyfriend likes you back?
last time i was out on a date with my boyfriend that i know since i was in grade3, and i have loved him whole my life, but in that day he told me that he was talking to my friend and i got so pissed off and i wanted him to hate her... i asked him if he likes her and then he got mad at me when i asked him and he broke up with me one month ago and i still like him more.. i cant forget him even some of his friends told me that he still likes me but we dont talk to each other.. now i dont know what to do! i want to talk to him and i wonna go out with him! And each Thursday all my friends go snowboaring and i want to go with them but the guy that i like will be there and my friend will be there too.. so im scared to go because maybe if i see them talking together i would make a big fight and i would lose my friends! :( i dont know what to de... im confused!! i LOVE that guy hes the cutest guy in school and everyone calls him Mr. Cute Guy even my friend so i get jealouse! i need help i want him back and i want him to be only MINE and i dont want any girl to flirt with him like usual!! :( I STILL LOVE HIM AND I WILL ALWAYS WILL! what is the best way to be his girl friend with him again??How to make sure that your boyfriend likes you back?
sweety, just be honest with him, and tell him exactly what you said here. tell him that you get jealous because you love him, and you dont want any girl to steal him. just be honest about everything. call him or text him, and ask him out and tell him that you wanna talk to him about everything. dont let it last for long or else, he's gonna think you dont care or sumthing like that. so be honest about everything and be brave as well, go out there and do it right now. you still have the chance to get things fixed, before it's too late. wish you good luck sweetheart, and if u still need any help, im here :) tc of yourselfHow to make sure that your boyfriend likes you back?
What are you, in 7th grade??? Jeez.
Okay if you're going to go out with this guy, you're going to need to get over your jealousy issues. When you can actually land a guy like this, you need to consider yourself lucky because he chose YOU for a reason! It doesn't matter if the whole freakin' SCHOOL is out to get him, he loves YOU. If you don't get over your jealousy issues, you're never going to be able to keep a boyfriend for more than 3 months, if even that. Guys don't like girls that get jealous and they definitely don't like it when their GIRLFRIEND accuses them of cheating! Quit being a little ********* and groww uppp.
you don't love him. know why? cause you don't TRUST HIM.
鈾een with my boyfriend for a whoolleee year.
He is your b/f, if he doesn't like you then he probably wouldn't be with you. Stop asking stupid questions.
sweety, just be honest with him, and tell him exactly what you said here. tell him that you get jealous because you love him, and you dont want any girl to steal him. just be honest about everything. call him or text him, and ask him out and tell him that you wanna talk to him about everything. dont let it last for long or else, he's gonna think you dont care or sumthing like that. so be honest about everything and be brave as well, go out there and do it right now. you still have the chance to get things fixed, before it's too late. wish you good luck sweetheart, and if u still need any help, im here :) tc of yourselfHow to make sure that your boyfriend likes you back?
What are you, in 7th grade??? Jeez.
Okay if you're going to go out with this guy, you're going to need to get over your jealousy issues. When you can actually land a guy like this, you need to consider yourself lucky because he chose YOU for a reason! It doesn't matter if the whole freakin' SCHOOL is out to get him, he loves YOU. If you don't get over your jealousy issues, you're never going to be able to keep a boyfriend for more than 3 months, if even that. Guys don't like girls that get jealous and they definitely don't like it when their GIRLFRIEND accuses them of cheating! Quit being a little ********* and groww uppp.
you don't love him. know why? cause you don't TRUST HIM.
鈾een with my boyfriend for a whoolleee year.
He is your b/f, if he doesn't like you then he probably wouldn't be with you. Stop asking stupid questions.
How do you know if your boyfriend likes you?
It's so wierd...m boyfriend give's me th COOLEST presents. (he's amazing at thinking up the best thing to buy) but we NEVER go places other then hanging out in the neighborhood. he doesnt hold my hand like he used to. doesnt call nemore. and he told my friend he thinks i like this other guy (who i dont).
i have kinda gotten over it tho and am planning to break up with him but im afraid that if he still cares too much he wont accept it and will continue to flirt and stuff. (plus he lives like right ddown the street from me so were on the same school bus and i see him on my runs so i want to still b friends)
o and also im always REALLY busy and he's NEVER busy so we never get to hang out ne mor. plus he doesnt support ne of the things i do. like tae-kwon-do. or track, ESPECIALLY track cuz it takes up most of my time.
so ya i just wana know if he caresHow do you know if your boyfriend likes you?
Well if he cares it seems to be less than he used to, accusing you of liking someone else, and he can't even hold your hand. Just dump him and move on. Not much else going to rekindle that relationship.How do you know if your boyfriend likes you?
You dont give him the attention he's probably use to from past relationships. And dont plan to break up with a guy, make it work today or leave today.
how do you know? boyfriend likes ? you or not?
what kind of question is this ,dear?
if you've accepted him as your huerro,then ,of course he LOVES you.
alright this guy reallly likes u but hes afraid ur not into him. like the holding hand thing is cuz he doesnt know if u wanna. and he probably thinks u make up exscuses not tobe with him or that u never want to make time for him.
tell him exactly howu feelFashion leather necklace norton 2008
i have kinda gotten over it tho and am planning to break up with him but im afraid that if he still cares too much he wont accept it and will continue to flirt and stuff. (plus he lives like right ddown the street from me so were on the same school bus and i see him on my runs so i want to still b friends)
o and also im always REALLY busy and he's NEVER busy so we never get to hang out ne mor. plus he doesnt support ne of the things i do. like tae-kwon-do. or track, ESPECIALLY track cuz it takes up most of my time.
so ya i just wana know if he caresHow do you know if your boyfriend likes you?
Well if he cares it seems to be less than he used to, accusing you of liking someone else, and he can't even hold your hand. Just dump him and move on. Not much else going to rekindle that relationship.How do you know if your boyfriend likes you?
You dont give him the attention he's probably use to from past relationships. And dont plan to break up with a guy, make it work today or leave today.
how do you know? boyfriend likes ? you or not?
what kind of question is this ,dear?
if you've accepted him as your huerro,then ,of course he LOVES you.
alright this guy reallly likes u but hes afraid ur not into him. like the holding hand thing is cuz he doesnt know if u wanna. and he probably thinks u make up exscuses not tobe with him or that u never want to make time for him.
tell him exactly howu feel
How can you tell your boyfriend that you're angry with him, without risking a break up?
I am 18 years old and my boyfriend and I have been together for over 7 months now, and in some ways sometimes he can be a bit of a jerk. From conversations about having sex, to talking about my friends, and even sometimes not acknowledging me when I enter a room (if he's with his friends). He is very immature when it comes to being in a relationship, as his previous relationship was long distance towards the end, and I've been cutting him some slack lately when it comes to my needs. Long story short, he keeps pushing me to have sex earlier and earlier when we have talked about waiting, he bad mouths all of my friends and none of them like him, and recently it seems like he has better priorities than talking or spending time with me. Now I can be a very nosy person at times and I have seen a few girls that he talks to flirt with him a lot and it makes me uncomfortable, even though I know he would never cheat on me. So, how can I tell him these things that are making me angry without putting stress on him or even worse breaking up? Besides these few things he is a great guy and I don't want to lose him over some silly little arguments. But I have passed my breaking point of holding emotions in and I would like some help and clarification. Am I overreacting? Please help meHow can you tell your boyfriend that you're angry with him, without risking a break up?
u obviously dont like him either so why r u still with him. he doesnt care about ur needs and he sounds pretty selfish so u might as well move on. How can you tell your boyfriend that you're angry with him, without risking a break up?
just tell him, watch your tone while you're doing and ask him if their is anything that bothers him, and with everything you listed, if he wants to break up with you because you want to talk with him, let him go, you are far too young to be in a bad relationship and their are other guys out there that will care about you needs and feelings
be calm and tell him privately. do whatever you can to stay calm. next time he does something like that, just tell him then. don't yell at him though. this will prevent any rage build-ups. if he over reacts to you talking to him- whenever you are doing whatever you can to preserve his feelings- then he may be too high maintenance for you.
You have to let him know how you feel, otherwise it's just going to keep eating at you. He should respect how you feel and try and work on it. And if he's gonna break up with you for expressing your feelings, he's not worth it. You can't keep your mouth shut just to keep peace.
You are 18 years old. Dump this loser and get on with it. The only thing he wants from you is sex, I dont see why you dont see it. Or, you can be really stupid, and go ahead and have sex with him and get pregnant and become ANOTHER teen mom on welfare with no babydaddy. You choose. Dont be stupid.
He's not worth going out, trust me, find someone who respects you and your beliefs, you are not over reacting, breaking up is hard, but why risk a horrible depressing relationship when there definitely is someone out there waiting for you.
Blech. He is dead weight. He will break your heart. You won't get out in time. There is nothing anyone can say to you to make you do anything differently. You have to go through it now so you don't make the same mistake later. Keep your self from getting knocked up!
he wants sex now bc he thinks ur a whore or low class have some pride girl u sound like ur 10 ..really u has sex at 7 months only sluts if he can deal with get a new bf
Why don't you want to break up?
you should just break up because he sounds too immature
I am about to help you sooo much if you will listen:
your man-boy is giving you a 20-20 glimpse into what your future will be like if you remain with him. end of story. If you stay, you get what you choose, if you give into him, he''ll continue to test it...to expand the boundaries of the crap you will take... no amount of promises on his part that he will change will be sincere...just an attempt to keep you, cause who in heir right mind would stay with him and he has to know it. maybe he wants you gone.
Is he the only boy at your school? Don't you think you deserve better?
I'm sure there are guys at your school that would treat you so much better than that. Why would you settle being treated like that? You sound like a sweet intelligent girl and why you would stand for this treatment is beyond me.
You shouldn't be scared that he is gonna break up with you if you voice your feelings and how he treats you. You should be able to talk to him and he should understand and come to a compromise with you.
That's how healthy relationships work.
Good luck
He sounds like he only wants sex. He's looking around and wishing he was having sex with you and every other girl. DON'T GIVE IN! If you had discussed a time, stick to it.
He does sound too immature to be in a steady relationship. I would talk to him and tell him this.
';I feel like the only thing you want from me is sex. I feel like you want more physically in our relationship and I need more emotionally. I don't really feel important to you, I feel like you don't really want to be with me, and those feelings don't really make me want to have sex with you now or ever. I really don't know what you want anymore.';
It sounds harsh, but honestly, you may have to just break up. At least you can do it without him using you for sex first.
He seems like bad news and as painful as it may be, you're probably better off moving on.
There are certainly many problems with him that cause you stress and upset, but the fact that you are worried about bringing up important issues because it might make him break up with you? Huge red flags everywhere - this guy isn't meant to be.
I don't want to make judgement on his character - maybe he's just an *** or maybe he is just not ready for a committed relationship and is behaving badly as a result.
You're young and you have plenty of time and there are plenty of fish in the sea - don't waste the time, energy, and emotion on this guy anymore.
I can gaurantee you that it won't get any better. In fact, it will probably get worse. If these kinds of issues are present after 7 months? And you can't talk to him about it? Not a good set of circumstances.
Kick him to the curb. You'll be better off for it.
Hi, i'm 20 yrs old and i've been dating my boyfriend for 11 months now, so obviously been through the 7 months stage. I realise that because you've come that far you don't wanna lose what you have with each other. But then again it sounds like you aren't really meant for each other?
Do you love each other? It certainly doesn't really sound like it, if you can't be totally happy with someone and notice things you don't like is there really any point carrying on?
6 months down the line you could have found someone much nicer than this guy who isn't pressuring you into having sex, and isn't dissing your friends. Someone who loves everything about you and cares about you wouldn't want to hurt you and if they did you should have no quarms in telling them. If you know he might get really annoyed with you if you tell him this stuff it really doesn't seem like theres much communication there.
Now i'm not saying I don't have little arguments with my bf, but they happen less and less, in the first 2/3 months it was awful and I thought he was going to break up with me but then its got better since then, and since 6 months we've been totally happy, totally unafraid to let each other know what we think and are totally into each other and have no problems at all really. You should look into your future and see if you can imagine this guy, is he really what you want or are you just in it because you don't want to be single? ESPECIALLY if your not ready to have sex yet, he shouldn't be pushing you.
Hope I helped and you didn't get too narked at me lol.
just say, ';look i love you but i am sorry, i am not ready to have sex, and no offense but, pushing me is only making me not want to do it even more, just give me time and respect me wishes, you'll most likely going to get in sooner or later, isn't my body worth waiting for ?';
As to ignoring you, well, ask him if he knows he is kinda sorta ignoring you, if he says '; i am?'; as in he hasent noticed well, then he is a idiot, he probably jsut dosent think he needs to be more attentive, because his last relationship was long distence, so he dident have to be, hes probably just not used to it, talk to him and see how he reacts, from his reaction do what you feel you need too.
P.S the isn't my body worth waiting for, will probably make him feel rly bad
and if he is still a ***, tell him to kiss ur *** and come talk to me! oh and if he is dissing your friends, if there trying to flirt with him he probably thinks there crappy friends if there hiting on your boyfriend, i would but i would ignor them, he seems to be the more, **** you typ
hey, I also have a boyfriend of 8 months so we relate in that. through out my relationship and others I have learned that communication and honesty is key. it is important that you not talk to him about this in front of anyone for risk of embarrassing him. when you driving in the car or alone then bring it up. start off by telling him how much you value your relationship. then explain that you want to talk to him about something that has been bothering you. calmly but honestly explain your concerns to him. If he is the guy he sounds like he will be concerned and try to understand your point of view. If he breaks up with you I am terribly sorry and I know you don't want to hear this, but if he does your better off without him. because if you cant talk to him about this whats going to happen when something bigger comes up?
I know it is hard to hear now but you will some day realize the difference between good guys and bad guys. It seems like girls are attracted to the bad guys (and it seems like this one is) and end up getting hurt. Don't be in a hurry to have sex with anyone. Only give yourself as a special gift to someone deserving...and tell him that. Tell him when you act like you deserve me, maybe then I'll give in.
Don't settle for less that you deserve. Its a hard lesson to learn, trust me. I'm thankful to be with someone who truly cares how I feel and treats me with respect. I think you may need to get a little attitude with this one and let him know by your actions that you know what you deserve.
Are you kidding me? This guy is pretty much running you through, with all of his BS. I think YOU should be the one to break up with HIM and not the other way around. Because no offense this isn't a great guy at all. He just sweet talked you a bit to get you guys dating, but now his TRUE COLORS are screaming through. I mean there are so many red flags you just presented, that I'm surprised you haven't even realized that this isn't normal guy or relationship behavior. Get out while you can, don't try and save this relationship, its unsavable and you should have better things to do with your time.
Call him up and start by saying ';we need to talk...something has been bothering me and im not trying to start an argument but i cant handle it any more I know you want sex but im just not ready for it if you love me ..or (like) me you can wait just like me....'; and if you can think of anything else to say nice ot put in there ..that may help ...then for the friends part you can say.. ';would it be ok if you can give my friends a lil more respect and not bad talk them?'; ...Then after that make sure you ask him of anything that may be bugging him about you so that way your not sounding like he's doing everything wrong and not you ...because lol everyone isnt perfect unless if he thinks you are then thats sweet of him.And o i dont think your over reacting
if you're scared about speaking you're mind to him and telling him how you really think, i don't think it's a very good relationship in the first place.
you should be comfortable with stating your needs without worrying about breaking up. if you're that worried, it sort of sounds that you're a little too dependent on him
but it doesn't sound like you're overreacting. i think you should talk to him about all this.
if he's beginning to ignore you more and more, that's definitely a problem. and if he's pressuring you into sex, that's also not a good sign.
i say talk to him, but if it does lead to a break up, that may be what's best for you... it looks the relationship is going down hill from here anyway.
u obviously dont like him either so why r u still with him. he doesnt care about ur needs and he sounds pretty selfish so u might as well move on. How can you tell your boyfriend that you're angry with him, without risking a break up?
just tell him, watch your tone while you're doing and ask him if their is anything that bothers him, and with everything you listed, if he wants to break up with you because you want to talk with him, let him go, you are far too young to be in a bad relationship and their are other guys out there that will care about you needs and feelings
be calm and tell him privately. do whatever you can to stay calm. next time he does something like that, just tell him then. don't yell at him though. this will prevent any rage build-ups. if he over reacts to you talking to him- whenever you are doing whatever you can to preserve his feelings- then he may be too high maintenance for you.
You have to let him know how you feel, otherwise it's just going to keep eating at you. He should respect how you feel and try and work on it. And if he's gonna break up with you for expressing your feelings, he's not worth it. You can't keep your mouth shut just to keep peace.
You are 18 years old. Dump this loser and get on with it. The only thing he wants from you is sex, I dont see why you dont see it. Or, you can be really stupid, and go ahead and have sex with him and get pregnant and become ANOTHER teen mom on welfare with no babydaddy. You choose. Dont be stupid.
He's not worth going out, trust me, find someone who respects you and your beliefs, you are not over reacting, breaking up is hard, but why risk a horrible depressing relationship when there definitely is someone out there waiting for you.
Blech. He is dead weight. He will break your heart. You won't get out in time. There is nothing anyone can say to you to make you do anything differently. You have to go through it now so you don't make the same mistake later. Keep your self from getting knocked up!
he wants sex now bc he thinks ur a whore or low class have some pride girl u sound like ur 10 ..really u has sex at 7 months only sluts if he can deal with get a new bf
Why don't you want to break up?
you should just break up because he sounds too immature
I am about to help you sooo much if you will listen:
your man-boy is giving you a 20-20 glimpse into what your future will be like if you remain with him. end of story. If you stay, you get what you choose, if you give into him, he''ll continue to test it...to expand the boundaries of the crap you will take... no amount of promises on his part that he will change will be sincere...just an attempt to keep you, cause who in heir right mind would stay with him and he has to know it. maybe he wants you gone.
Is he the only boy at your school? Don't you think you deserve better?
I'm sure there are guys at your school that would treat you so much better than that. Why would you settle being treated like that? You sound like a sweet intelligent girl and why you would stand for this treatment is beyond me.
You shouldn't be scared that he is gonna break up with you if you voice your feelings and how he treats you. You should be able to talk to him and he should understand and come to a compromise with you.
That's how healthy relationships work.
Good luck
He sounds like he only wants sex. He's looking around and wishing he was having sex with you and every other girl. DON'T GIVE IN! If you had discussed a time, stick to it.
He does sound too immature to be in a steady relationship. I would talk to him and tell him this.
';I feel like the only thing you want from me is sex. I feel like you want more physically in our relationship and I need more emotionally. I don't really feel important to you, I feel like you don't really want to be with me, and those feelings don't really make me want to have sex with you now or ever. I really don't know what you want anymore.';
It sounds harsh, but honestly, you may have to just break up. At least you can do it without him using you for sex first.
He seems like bad news and as painful as it may be, you're probably better off moving on.
There are certainly many problems with him that cause you stress and upset, but the fact that you are worried about bringing up important issues because it might make him break up with you? Huge red flags everywhere - this guy isn't meant to be.
I don't want to make judgement on his character - maybe he's just an *** or maybe he is just not ready for a committed relationship and is behaving badly as a result.
You're young and you have plenty of time and there are plenty of fish in the sea - don't waste the time, energy, and emotion on this guy anymore.
I can gaurantee you that it won't get any better. In fact, it will probably get worse. If these kinds of issues are present after 7 months? And you can't talk to him about it? Not a good set of circumstances.
Kick him to the curb. You'll be better off for it.
Hi, i'm 20 yrs old and i've been dating my boyfriend for 11 months now, so obviously been through the 7 months stage. I realise that because you've come that far you don't wanna lose what you have with each other. But then again it sounds like you aren't really meant for each other?
Do you love each other? It certainly doesn't really sound like it, if you can't be totally happy with someone and notice things you don't like is there really any point carrying on?
6 months down the line you could have found someone much nicer than this guy who isn't pressuring you into having sex, and isn't dissing your friends. Someone who loves everything about you and cares about you wouldn't want to hurt you and if they did you should have no quarms in telling them. If you know he might get really annoyed with you if you tell him this stuff it really doesn't seem like theres much communication there.
Now i'm not saying I don't have little arguments with my bf, but they happen less and less, in the first 2/3 months it was awful and I thought he was going to break up with me but then its got better since then, and since 6 months we've been totally happy, totally unafraid to let each other know what we think and are totally into each other and have no problems at all really. You should look into your future and see if you can imagine this guy, is he really what you want or are you just in it because you don't want to be single? ESPECIALLY if your not ready to have sex yet, he shouldn't be pushing you.
Hope I helped and you didn't get too narked at me lol.
just say, ';look i love you but i am sorry, i am not ready to have sex, and no offense but, pushing me is only making me not want to do it even more, just give me time and respect me wishes, you'll most likely going to get in sooner or later, isn't my body worth waiting for ?';
As to ignoring you, well, ask him if he knows he is kinda sorta ignoring you, if he says '; i am?'; as in he hasent noticed well, then he is a idiot, he probably jsut dosent think he needs to be more attentive, because his last relationship was long distence, so he dident have to be, hes probably just not used to it, talk to him and see how he reacts, from his reaction do what you feel you need too.
P.S the isn't my body worth waiting for, will probably make him feel rly bad
and if he is still a ***, tell him to kiss ur *** and come talk to me! oh and if he is dissing your friends, if there trying to flirt with him he probably thinks there crappy friends if there hiting on your boyfriend, i would but i would ignor them, he seems to be the more, **** you typ
hey, I also have a boyfriend of 8 months so we relate in that. through out my relationship and others I have learned that communication and honesty is key. it is important that you not talk to him about this in front of anyone for risk of embarrassing him. when you driving in the car or alone then bring it up. start off by telling him how much you value your relationship. then explain that you want to talk to him about something that has been bothering you. calmly but honestly explain your concerns to him. If he is the guy he sounds like he will be concerned and try to understand your point of view. If he breaks up with you I am terribly sorry and I know you don't want to hear this, but if he does your better off without him. because if you cant talk to him about this whats going to happen when something bigger comes up?
I know it is hard to hear now but you will some day realize the difference between good guys and bad guys. It seems like girls are attracted to the bad guys (and it seems like this one is) and end up getting hurt. Don't be in a hurry to have sex with anyone. Only give yourself as a special gift to someone deserving...and tell him that. Tell him when you act like you deserve me, maybe then I'll give in.
Don't settle for less that you deserve. Its a hard lesson to learn, trust me. I'm thankful to be with someone who truly cares how I feel and treats me with respect. I think you may need to get a little attitude with this one and let him know by your actions that you know what you deserve.
Are you kidding me? This guy is pretty much running you through, with all of his BS. I think YOU should be the one to break up with HIM and not the other way around. Because no offense this isn't a great guy at all. He just sweet talked you a bit to get you guys dating, but now his TRUE COLORS are screaming through. I mean there are so many red flags you just presented, that I'm surprised you haven't even realized that this isn't normal guy or relationship behavior. Get out while you can, don't try and save this relationship, its unsavable and you should have better things to do with your time.
Call him up and start by saying ';we need to talk...something has been bothering me and im not trying to start an argument but i cant handle it any more I know you want sex but im just not ready for it if you love me ..or (like) me you can wait just like me....'; and if you can think of anything else to say nice ot put in there ..that may help ...then for the friends part you can say.. ';would it be ok if you can give my friends a lil more respect and not bad talk them?'; ...Then after that make sure you ask him of anything that may be bugging him about you so that way your not sounding like he's doing everything wrong and not you ...because lol everyone isnt perfect unless if he thinks you are then thats sweet of him.And o i dont think your over reacting
if you're scared about speaking you're mind to him and telling him how you really think, i don't think it's a very good relationship in the first place.
you should be comfortable with stating your needs without worrying about breaking up. if you're that worried, it sort of sounds that you're a little too dependent on him
but it doesn't sound like you're overreacting. i think you should talk to him about all this.
if he's beginning to ignore you more and more, that's definitely a problem. and if he's pressuring you into sex, that's also not a good sign.
i say talk to him, but if it does lead to a break up, that may be what's best for you... it looks the relationship is going down hill from here anyway.
Would you be worried if your boyfriend texts other guys?
I am friends with a gay guy and he has been coming to me for advice and I'm not sure what to tell him.
His boyfriend is constantly texting other guys and calls them while his boyfriend (my friend) is in bed waiting for him. He also has a profile on a dating site which he constantly checks and is always looking at. He tells my friend that he shouldn't be worried about any of this stuff. Says that he wants to be with him and the guys he meets are miles away. But he constantly texts them too and they do flirt. My friend told him how much this hurts him and how he feels as though he isn't good enough for him.
So, is this normal behavior? I just don't know what to tell my friend when he is upset and venting to me.Would you be worried if your boyfriend texts other guys?
tell him to move onWould you be worried if your boyfriend texts other guys?
hella yea i would b mad if my bf does that...but i don't have one yet...heehee....anyways ur friend can try to do the same thing that guy is doing and try to see wat his bf's reaction is, and if he is mad then ur friend can say '; now u know how i feel so stop doing it....'; or if it seems that he doesn't care then ur friend can just tell him that it's done and they r through unless he stops his stupid texting and mailing
it might be time to move on, it happens breaking-up is one of the hardest things too do. First tell him to confess this to his BF if the reaction is something like ';I need my freedom'; then it's a break-up.
That is not good. Something is wrong there.
He should move on.
His boyfriend is constantly texting other guys and calls them while his boyfriend (my friend) is in bed waiting for him. He also has a profile on a dating site which he constantly checks and is always looking at. He tells my friend that he shouldn't be worried about any of this stuff. Says that he wants to be with him and the guys he meets are miles away. But he constantly texts them too and they do flirt. My friend told him how much this hurts him and how he feels as though he isn't good enough for him.
So, is this normal behavior? I just don't know what to tell my friend when he is upset and venting to me.Would you be worried if your boyfriend texts other guys?
tell him to move onWould you be worried if your boyfriend texts other guys?
hella yea i would b mad if my bf does that...but i don't have one yet...heehee....anyways ur friend can try to do the same thing that guy is doing and try to see wat his bf's reaction is, and if he is mad then ur friend can say '; now u know how i feel so stop doing it....'; or if it seems that he doesn't care then ur friend can just tell him that it's done and they r through unless he stops his stupid texting and mailing
it might be time to move on, it happens breaking-up is one of the hardest things too do. First tell him to confess this to his BF if the reaction is something like ';I need my freedom'; then it's a break-up.
That is not good. Something is wrong there.
He should move on.
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