How would you react if you found your boyfriend/girlfriend was hiding messages flirting with other people?

About a week a go he met up with two girls at the beach, then I found messages on his facebook of him flirting with the girls and giving out his number/msn. He apologised and I forgave him but a few days later he was adding random girls as friends and flirting with them as well, we've been together for 10 months and I've never felt the need to distrust him like this, but recently things have changed. I don't know what to do anymore :(How would you react if you found your boyfriend/girlfriend was hiding messages flirting with other people?
If you love him, don't barred him in making friends, if he gone overboard in having a affair that is unforgivable but if he does it with a clear mind of what he is doing now. You should advice him that who ever you met and I wish you let me know also and I also wish to be their friend too. In a way if he is honest and faithful to you, he will not holding back letting you know (but sometime he held back some for other reasons , you should be having a bigger heart to understand him and not pointing fingers) .


As long you and him have a clear protocol of how friends is treated and the motion of befriending is still clear it is not to block all excess in your relational process. It is not healthy in making such move as both will slowly vanishes away from making friends.





Trust and understands each other way in life with constant communication and emotional buildup will be a big challenge in between both of you.How would you react if you found your boyfriend/girlfriend was hiding messages flirting with other people?
I'm not sure how old you are, but just to let you know, once the trust is gone, nothing better is going to come out of it. you said he apologized and you forgave him. and here he is going at it again. honey, its not worth worrying about. if things have changed, they why in the world are you still with him. let him go. if he really cares about you he'll come back. for now you have to move on. not worht the heartache. 10 months - the more reason NOT TO STAY around.
dont put up with that sh*t.


unless you two have an open relationship and he's ok with YOU saying the same things to other guys as what he was saying to random girls then you shouldnt be putting up with that from him.


by him appologizing he either wasnt sorry and didnt think he did anything wrong, or , he thought that he was going to get away with it this time.


dont spend your time with someone who doesnt care enough to tell you the truth because there's plenty of others who will.


good luck miss :)
wow, my friend was recently in just about the EXACT same situation as you.


I don't know your boyfriend, but he doesn't really sound like a good guy.





Flirtation can be up for interpretation and giving out your number can be innocent--but if he already apologized then it sounds like he's pretty much fessed up to it.





I think it really depends on how much you care about him and want your relationship to work. I mean I would probably try talking to him about it and see what he says.





I don't want to jump the gun, but honestly you might want to consider getting out of this relationship. If he's really flirting with other girls, even right after being confronted about it...it doesn't seem like it's going to change. Everyone deserves to be with someone that will treat them right and be faithful to them and if he can't even do that then he doesn't deserve to have you and you honestly deserve better. Sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do.





It can be extremely hard, especially if you really love the guy...but just know that you really do deserve better than that and you should not have to put up with that (especially multiple times).





good luck!